As adults we’ve all been there; we’ve felt overwhelmed with the number of items on our to-do lists, exhausted from running errands and attending activities and events. If you’re a military spouse, that feeling could be even more pronounced because at one time or another you’ve been juggling the responsibility of two adults while you’re spouse is away. If you can’t remember the last time you’ve had some “me time” or you’re constantly putting your own needs and goals aside then you need to make yourself a priority again.
Realize you’re important, too.
It’s so easy to get into the habit of putting the needs of your spouse, children, or other family members ahead of your own but if you feel like there’s never enough hours in the day to help your family and focus on yourself then you need to reevaluate. Many people say they feel guilty or selfish for taking time to themselves but it’s not, it’s a necessity for your health. Most healthcare professionals agree that having some time to yourself every day is important for your mental and physical well being. Having some time to decompress or focus on something that interests you will reduce stress which in turn reduces physical symptoms such as pain and insomnia making you better able to live a busy life.
Get organized and learn the power of “no”.
Often time people who are stressed and overwhelmed aren’t acknowledging the limits to their time and resources. They are often the people who have appointments and activities scheduled back-to-back because they can’t say “no” for fear of disappointing someone or missing out on something. Using a planner, calendar, even a piece of paper to write down your appointments will often show you just how busy and cramped your schedule and time is. Saying “no” to an invitation or taking on another activity isn’t wrong. If you’re feeling rushed to complete a project or get from one place to another, you’ll be less likely to be present in the moment which takes away from your experience altogether. Try to spread out your appointments and activates and make sure you schedule time to yourself as well.
Commit to yourself.
Whether you simply want to read a book for an hour each day or you’re working on your education, make a commitment to yourself that you will have a set amount of time to yourself each and every day. Some people swear by setting an alarm and waking up an hour before the rest of the household so they can have time to themselves without distraction; others wait until everyone is asleep, and still others find small slots of time throughout the day. Whatever works for you, stick to it and use it to meet your individual needs.